The blog, a new therapy
They are millions of people to tell each other every day on the web… Exercise of public intimacy, the blog can also be a tool for self-knowledge and personal development.
Less futile than it seems, the blog often changes the life of its author. A bit like a pet to feed at a fixed time, he waits every day for his ration of confidences. These encounters with oneself make it possible to let off steam, to purge one’s daily life of the negative feelings that pollute it.
My blog is an emotional trash can,”says Hervé, 50 years old (ressepire). He’s helping me get rid of my anxieties.” I can grumble at anything that pisses me off,”confides Anaïs, 35 years old (this isn’t something I’ll have to do. skynetblogs. be). And when something annoys me, I think of a funny note that, once written, will defuse the bomb.”
The blog allows you to put your problems at a distance, to consider them differently.” He changes the way we look at ourselves,”comments the psychoanalyst Serge Tisseron, author of Virtuel, mon amour (Albin Michel, 2008). It replaces the inner discourse that some people cannot have with a word addressed to an imaginary companion.” It also helps to escape from a heavy occupation, such as the fliquette which makes a big hit with its police station stories (police. etc. over-blog. net/) or the teacher who tells his arrival in a difficult suburban establishment (prof-a-la-derive. over-blog. com/).
A tool for change
Often created in turbulent times, the blog comes to the rescue of the dismissed executive, of the future daddy overwhelmed by events, of the thirty-year-old turned upside down by her last break… A tool for personal development of a new kind, it helps to stay the course when life takes a new turn.” Its creation often accompanies curvatures in life trajectories, comments Dominique Cardon, sociologist at Orange Labs, France Telecom’s research centre. There are “crisis blogs”, created on the occasion of a mourning, a break-up, but also “life project blogs”, which tell the story of quitting smoking or the search for a new love.”
Keeping an online logbook allows you to sort through your priorities, goals and progress. I’m in a time of change,”says Carole, 35. My blog[new charlotte. blogs. psychologies. com] is like a cane I can rely on: I make commitments to make my life more beautiful tomorrow, like this three-year life plan I’ve undertaken.” The bloggers, who write a twists and turns script in which they play the lead role, are also looking for a public to keep them on their toes.
An engine of self-esteem
At first, I wrote for myself, and finally, I was fed by all these comments and encounters,”explains Hervé. They saved me from depression, gave me back my confidence in the future. I never would have imagined that my little notes could touch people so much that they come back several times a day to check if I’d written a new one.” The blog reinforces self-esteem, it helps to find a positive, active “function”: Emma, pregnant at 16, mother for the second time at 18, created her own (mom-a-16-year-old. skyrock. com) to “share her wonderful story” and “help young girls confused by the discovery of their pregnancy”.” My life becomes more interesting when I tell it “better”, comments Serge Tisseron. Today, we want to value its existence, make it an experience that is worth sharing, that could inspire others.”
A box of secrets
Bottle thrown into the sea, the blog allows strangers to confide to strangers what they don’t dare to confess to their loved ones.” Many teenagers create a blog to talk about their homosexuality or anorexia,”says Cardon. Adults free themselves from secrets too heavy to bear, such as the thirty-year-old who had read in his girlfriend’s diary that she had fallen in love with someone else. He then opened a blog to tell this “chronicle of an announced break-up”. He received a lot of support.” One can also gather more objective opinions about his literary or artistic talents than those of his close relations.
In real life, I never believe in praise,”Hervé continues. On the Internet, my readers have no reason to lie.” But this franchise can also hurt.” I spent nights crying over comments left on my blog,”says Laurel, a cartoonist (bloglaurel. com). I try not to take them in the first degree anymore, to separate what I reveal from what I keep for myself.” Even if difficult to swallow, criticism is better than silence. Because the worst part is not being read.